All the different words and abbreviations used in conjunction with S/M, can be hard to understand. Even those connected to the community for a long time have different definitions on the many abbreviations.
This is our small list of our definition of the words. Remember, if you disagree with our "interpretation";  Its "our" definitions, you and others can have different definitions, and that's ok :-)

We will continue our work with this page, and we will have pictures or illustrations for some of the terms. Please send us a mail if you have ideas or comments. 

*SS*, *SN* Smile-Smile, Smiles Naughty.
Altocalciphilia The Latin word for being turned on by high heels.
MagicRopes "flaw" *ss*
BDSM B: Bondage/Discipline
D: Dominance/submission
SM: Sadism/masochism
A person who are into BDSM can "be" one or more of the categories.
You can also see the terms "S/m" or "D/s".
Most of it sounds like something physical, but most people "in-game" will say that 50-75 % is mental/emotional.
Bite Can be used with love, teasing or to inflict pain. The back and side of the neck and the breasts are sensitive areas.....good areas *sn*.
Blindfold To cover the sub's eyes with. Can be homemade or more advanced - both are equally good. It can help the sub to focus. To remove one sense, sharpens both the body and mind.
Bondage To tie up, in ropes preferably. See the page Ropes.
Breath Control Do not try this at home, if you are inexperienced.
Carabineers In stead of tying the rope directly to the leather cuff, its a good idea to tie it to a carabineer, and then attach it to the cuff.
This gives you two obvious advantages: You can prepare the ropes in forehand, if you already know what lengths of rope to be used. Its also a fast way to loosen or change the position of the sub.

They are also indispensable when making suspensions, where its easy to make fixed loops and attaching the carabineer to them.
Chat There are many chat-rooms on the Internet - also Danish. The 2 places we chat (mostly missie) are www.scor.dk and http://chatrr.ofir.dk.
Both have S/M related chat-rooms.
Chat-meeting Party where "chatters" meet in real life.
Link to the meetings in Jutland, usually arranged by SoulConnected and nana 
(includes also a list over meetings in the rest of Denmark).
Clamps You can use ordinary clothes-peg. You can loosen the spring a little, if its too hard. You can also invest in some more advanced clamps.
You can place the clamps where you like *ss*
Cuffs You can get cuffs in many different sizes and types. We prefer leather. You can have the cuffs with fur lining, but if you don't want the lining please make sure the have rounded edges and no stitches protruding. In that way you wont have the cuffs gnawing the wrists and ankles of the sub.
Cuffs should also have two buckles or at least one large one, this is to prevent cut-off of the blood stream to the feet and hands..

For suspensions you normally use special made cuffs, see suspension cuffs.

Deep throating Well, need I say more. A favorite of missie *sn*
Domina Dominating woman
Dominance Dominance is the urge to dominate. 
The mental and verbal dominance is often more important than the physical.
Dungeon Original meaning: Prison-cellar or a tower in a castle.
Today: Mostly a room or basement for "holding/playing" with your sub.
Exhibitionism Exhibitionism is the urge to show your sexuality and like being watched.
Endorphins Read more here.
Fetishism Fetishism is a sexual fascination concerning dressing, objects or materials.
I.e. stilettos, lack, latex, leather, nylons and much more..
Fisting Having a hand inserted in the vagina.
Fixation

Physical or mental limitation in freedom of movement. Physical it can be bondage and suspension.

Foreplay

To make the "right" mood and to make the playing more intense, foreplay is a must for us. To ensure that missie can give herself into the pain and submission, its important with foreplay - mental and physical.

Its like any other good sport. You are best when warmed up *ss*

Gag Could be a ball with straps. The ball goes into the mouth of the sub, and the straps are fastened in the neck. It can also just be a piece of cloth tied around the head, covering the mouth. Both types are used to "soften" the sounds from the sub, and to give the sub the  feeling of not having control.
Handcuffs Many people don't like handcuffs. It can be because they just don't like them - or they might have had a bad experience with a pair of handcuffs, of a bad quality.
MagicRope have the opportunity to by "professional" handcuffs, due to his area of work - And they work ;-)
Hemp rope Hemp rope is the mostly used and the best rope for bondage. Its strong enough for suspensions and is a good natural product. Nylon rope can give ugly burn marks.
See also Hamperebsslageren (Danish) 
Humiliation Wording, dressing or exposure with the sole purpose of humiliating the masochist.
Humiliation is an absolute turn-off for us.
Japanese bondage Rope bondage was originally used by samurais to tie up prisoners.
Today its been used mostly for dominance-games.
See more on the page
Bondage
Knife play A special thing -  and no, you don't have to cut into the flesh of the sub ;-). It is a question, as a lot of other thing, that the sub feel the tip of the knife. The knife can be turned in a lot of ways, so she feels the tip in different ways. One of the things you must be aware of, is the amount of pressure you lay on the knife. Its not sure you can see the result right away, but give the skin a couple of moments to react.
If you think that knife play is appealing, then be aware of the fact that the knife IS a weapon. Be careful around the big blood-veins around the neck. They are already very exposed, and when the sub is excited even more.
Knots Its important to be able to make some basic knots, if you venture out in the world of bondage. Its not so hard, when you have tried it a couple of times, and it can save you for a lot of trouble later, if you train beforehand.
Its especially important to know how to tie the knots, so they easily can bee loosened. Of course its also equally important knowing what knots to use where. I.e. working with suspensions.
Love balls Hollow balls, with small heavy balls inside. They are to be placed in the vagina where they vibrate and stimulate when the person walks around.
Lack Nice outfit...it gives a good feeling when wearing lack. Lack must sit tight to the body to look good. Lack is clothing treated with lack, so it look shiny and naughty.
We just love lack *ss*
Latex Mmm...latex is, at least, as good as lack. In fact it gives a totally different physical feeling when wearing latex. Its really tight to the body, and that gives a really special effect. (missie smiles very naughty).
Latex is rubber, nice, but a little difficult to put on and take off.
Masochism

Named after the writer Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (Austrian writer 1836 - 1895). He has , among others, written “Venus in fur”.

Masochism is feeling attraction and enjoyment when submitting your self, and being dominated.
"In a healthy women's sexuality there is a natural element of submission, where the devotion includes absolute submission".

Mental dominance Dominance is the lust of submission. 
Mental dominance is, in word and action, without physical touching or tying the sub, to make him/her to submit to you. Its the optimum way to prepare the sub for the physical dominance.
See more on the page  MagicRope & missie
Necklace/choker Can be made of leather, metal and so on.
Indicates the sub are owned or property of a Master - at least that she is not "free". In the necklace/choker there can be a plate with the Masters name on.
missie always carry a choker when at S/M-parties, and sometimes during our play.
Own/property To own each other...
Often used regarding the sub...
MagicRope don't "own" missie, but he knows she is he's "property" and that he always can trust her. 
Pain

Pain is a funny thing. In the day to day life, pain just HURTS - in the not so good way :-)
But pain can also increase the sexual leisure, if the involved persons know how to inflict and receive pain.

When the body are a subject to pain it releases the natural "drug" endorphins.

Piercing Piercing is body ornaments.
The most common are placed in the ears, nose, eyebrow and navel.
If they are used in a sexual connection they are often placed in the breasts or genitals.
Our attitude towards piercing is they are naughty on a girl, if its not exaggerated.
We don't like facial piercing (lips, eyebrows)
Play

Play is when we put away our every day role, our facade, "parades" and give our self to each other....
Play is our way making love (at least almost every time *ss*)

Retifism Shoe fetish.
If
Altocalciphilia is a flaw for MagicRope, then this must be included *ss*
Rewarding We think rewarding is better than punishment, and a more nice way to enjoy the play.
Look at the page
MagicRope & missie.
Sadism Named after the French count (marquis) and writer Donatien-Alphonse-Francois Marquis de Sade (1740-1814).
Sadomasochism Contraction of the words sadism and masochism. 
Sadomasochism or S/M, can shortly be defined s a sexual relationship between equals, where dominance and submission is a part of it.
Séance Séance is another word for playing, where play, bondage, love, mental and physical dominance are essential.
See also "play"
Slave A woman who, in her own free will, accepts to be dominated.
See also "sub".
SMil The society for SadoMasochists in Denmark and Norway, founded in Copenhagen,
Denmark 1979.
SMil is a place! A place where you can come and outlive your fantasies - a place where you don't need to worry about anything else than playing; no telephones, no kids, no disturbing elements!
There is a relaxed mood and a nice atmosphere.
We are not yet members of SMil, but we will be soon.
Stearin Made by stearin, paraffin or bees-wax. Bees-wax and stearin has a higher melting point than paraffin. This mean that they will feel hotter on the skin than paraffin.
The pain is also linked to the size of the drops, their interval and the distance between the candle and the skin - ant last but not least - the mood of the Master *ss*
Stilettos Shoes with high thin heels, which emphasize the woman's legs and butt, and gives her a more straight posture.
Stilettos are normally looked at as very sexy. I.e. Americans/British call them fuck-me-shoes ;-) (MagicRope smiles very naughty)
Stop word A stop word is always to be takes seriously, and means the playing must stop immediately. Find your own stop word, or use the one used by SMil; "circus"
Strap-on Dildo used to strap on your body using a "harness"
Used for sexual "penetration"... (Like girl-girl *sn*) 
Sub A woman who, in her own free will, accepts to be dominated.
Often people talk about if she is a slave, sub or something else. Its a question of definitions, and we let you to decide *ss*
Submission To let you being dominated, physical and mental, by another person.
Submissive

Are you submissive, you not only are turned on by the pain - you are turned on by the lust, the submission and the dominance. You are turned on by pleasing, to be nice and to satisfy your Master.

missie is submissive - actually a lot *ss*

Suspension

Suspension in the arms, legs or the whole body.
Often a suspension is included in a bondage laid for the occasion *ss'
Be aware that you should observe the sub at all times. Make sure she is positioned right when you take her up, so she wont get injured, and the flow of blood are not stopped.
See more in the page
suspension.

Suspension cuffs Cuffs specially made for suspensions in the arms or legs. Made so they don't stop the flow of blood.
Subspace A state of mind, where the sub glides into a state of total devotion and sexual ecstasy.
SoulConnecteds nana has described her subspace formidable. See nanas side om subspace. (Danish)
Switch A Person shifting between being a masochist and sadist.
Vanillasex A word for sex without the involvement of S/M
Whips

You can get whips in almost any size and type. There is the "nine-tail" often with more than nine "tails", horse whips, canes (buy a good quality, or they can break easily). You can get paddles and so on.

In any circumstance, make sure the whip feels good in your hand - you will appreciate it later *ss*

More to come here...

We will also make a list of explanations of some of the Japanese words/terms used in bondage *ss*